Monthly Archives: February 2011

7 Dating Danger Signs

Dating, and in particular ‘Positive Dating’, is an important step towards finding someone special. But how to know if you are on the right ‘dating track’?

Here are some dating pitfalls to be avoided in your quest for positive dating results:

  1. The “dating desert”: avoiding dating all together will not necessarily lead you to ‘Mr. or Mrs. Right’. Putting yourself out there and meeting some new people is an essential first step to dating success.
  2. Dating overload: on the flip side, dating too much can become a chore that feels a lot like a job!  Find your own comfort level with dating frequency; one or two dates a month is a common benchmark amongst professional matchmaking services.
  3. Quantity vs. Quality: you are generally better off to have fewer dates with more compatible matches with whom you share some basic things in common.
  4. Lack of focus on your dates: if you find yourself distracted on your dates, and not paying attention to your date partner, you’ll often find a first date will be the last date.
  5. Groundhog day: do your dates all seem to follow the same pattern with the same conversation topics? Mix it up with some funny and interesting stories, or discuss some current or upcoming events that excite you.
  6. I am work and work is me: talking about your job too much on a first date can be a sure fire chemistry killer.
  7. All talk or all listen: a good date should be a conversational give and take.  Aim for an equal balance of talking and listening to get the best results from a first date.

Finding Your Perfect Match

One of the most common questions we are asked by singles is, “What makes a perfect match?” 
Here’s our answer: there are basically two ESSENTIAL elements to a compatible match, chemistry and compatibility.  Ideally you want to have a bit of both.  Here are 3 common signs of each: 
  • You find the person physically attractive.
  • They make you laugh; and you make them laugh.
  • You have interesting and/or stimulating conversations with the person.


  • You have things in common: activities, interests, travel, etc.
  • You have similar views on education and career.
  • You have similar views on family.


With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, and the arrival of spring not long after that, many Vancouver singles are asking themselves ‘Is now the right time to start a relationship?’ 

Here are 7 telltale signs of relationship readiness:

  1. Dating burnout: does dating begin to feel like ‘groundhog day’, repeating the same old stories about yourself over and over to someone new that you have just met?
  2. Quest for meaningfulness: do you feel an increasing desire to share meaningful moments with someone special?
  3. Future planning: do you start thinking about sharing the future (home, family, holiday season happiness) with someone special?
  4. Tired of the bar scene and online dating: do you start to think more about quality vs. quantity; ie. dating less but dating more compatible matches?
  5. More than just looks: do you desire a romantic partner that not only physically attracts you, but who also has other qualities that draw you together (shared family values, intellectual curiosity, education, etc.)?
  6. In your thoughts: do you find yourself thinking about someone frequently, and consciously making plans which involve them?
  7. Mutual admiration: do you admire someone and truly value their opinions on important matters in your life?