Monthly Archives: February 2013

27 Scientifically Proven Dating Conversation Tips

It’s a problem as old as dating itself: what to talk about on a date? Should you be serious or funny? Sarcastic or sincere? Heavy or light?

The correct answer, in most every case, is to be yourself. But if that seems hard at first, here are 27 scientifically proven dating conversation starters to get things rolling (Source: Dr. Arthur Aron, State University of New York):

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

8. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

9. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

10. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

11. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

12. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

13. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

14. What do you value most in a friendship?

15. What is your most treasured memory?

16. What is your most terrible memory?

17. What does friendship mean to you?

18. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

19. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

20. Complete this sentence:”I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

21. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

22. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

23. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

24. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

25. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

26. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

27. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

7 Things Singles Should NEVER Do

Being single isn’t always easy. But it doesn’t have to be hard. In fact, when dating is fun you get better results and INCREASE the chances of meeting someone special.

If you want success from dating, here are 7 things you should never do:

  1. Sit back and wait: waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right to come to you rarely works. Be proactive in your dating life; trying new places, new ideas and new dating options will only increase your chances of meeting someone special.
  2. Mega-date: in the online dating and bar scene worlds, you often have to go on many bad dates to get one good one. This can make ’mega-dating’ seem like a reasonable option. It isn’t. A key to successful dating is to be positive and excited to meet someone new, which is hard to do when you are going on too many bad dates.
  3. Bring a checklist: it’s okay to have a checklist of qualities you are looking for in a relationship partner, but leave it at home before your date. The main purpose of a first date is to see if you have chemistry with someone. Once you connect with someone you may even find that your checklist changes.
  4. Interview your date: dates should not feel like job interviews. Focus on having fun on your date and you’ll greatly increase the chances of a positive impression, and a positive connection.
  5. Talk about your ex: there is a time to talk about past relationships, but a first or second date is NOT that time! Talking about an ex sends a message to your date that you are not truly ‘relationship ready’.
  6. Talk about your other dates: even worse than talking about your ex on a date, is to talk about other bad dating experiences that you have had. A sure-fire first date killer!
  7. Be negative: everyone wants to be around positive people… focus on positive, fun topics on your date (fun travel stories, plans for the summer, your thoughts on an appropriate Stanley Cup parade route for the Vancouver Canucks, etc.). This will make your date partner relax and have fun as well, which will maximize the chances of getting to a second date.


The Modern Rules Of Valentine’s Day Dating

If there is one single event in need of a makeover, it’s Valentine’s Day. Romance and dating should be fun – in fact, dating works better when you are having fun – but Valentine’s Day isn’t always a fun day for singles.

In this interview, ESD President Paddi Rice gives some timely tips on how to put Valentine’s Day back on your side: