Valentine’s Day is almost here, a day that brings joy and fear to the hearts of Vancouver singles and couples alike.
But if you’re still single, don’t sweat it. Here are 5 secrets to help you survive and even thrive this Valentine’s Day:
1. Meaning over money: if you’re in a relationship, there’s no need to break the bank with an overly expensive gift. Keep it simple – a nice hand written card, chocolates, or a nice dinner at home. When gifting, meaning means more than money.
2. Don’t force it: if there’s no-one special in your life at the moment, avoid doing or saying something on Valentine’s Day that you wouldn’t say on any other day, like ‘I do’!
3. Opportunity knocks: on the other hand, if there is someone you’re interested in (romantically or otherwise) it can be a nice time to ask them out for lunch or a casual drink. Many singles dread being alone on Valentine’s Day so you just might get a ‘yes’.
4. Take back Valentine’s Day: who says Valentine’s Day is only for couples… invite some singles friends over, or head out for a few drinks in a new neighbourhood. Who knows, you might connect with a fellow Valentine’s Day refugee!
5. Get ready to ‘spring’: if you are single and dateless on Valentine’s Day, don’t sweat it. The end of Valentine’s Day heralds the beginning of spring, THE best time of the year to meet someone new!
ESD President Paddi Rice describes “The Virtuous Cycle Of Vancouver Dating” while appearing on CTV Morning Live.
Watch Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I2dJpXLbFdg&feature=youtu.be
Dating has changed, there’s no doubt about it. In today’s hyper connected modern age, there are more ways to meet someone new than ever before. But does that mean it’s easier to meet your special someone?
Well that depends, if you’re looking for a casual ‘hook-up’ the answer is likely ‘yes’. If you’re looking for a lasting relationship the answer is ‘probably not’.
In fact, the golden rules of matchmaking have changed very little and are still the keys to finding someone compatible with you:
- Chemistry happens in the real world: regardless of how good (or bad) someone’s profile looks to you, the only way you can determine chemistry is to meet someone in person.
- Interested and interesting: finding someone interesting, and they you, is another key to true chemistry. Remember: what they ‘like’ is much less important than what they ‘feel’.
- Similar outlooks on life: no, you don’t have to be the exact same as someone to click in person, but sharing the same viewpoint on important issues (family, education, travel, etc.) can be a good foundation for a couple to build upon.
- Respect: physical chemistry (at least a little bit) is important, but even more important is mutual respect. Without it, even strong physical chemistry can fizzle out after the initial rush.
- Laughter: no matter how funny (or not) someone appears in the virtual or online world, finding them funny (and they you) in the real world can be an important factor in long term happiness. It’s less about telling jokes and more about making you smile when you think of them.
We’ve all heard it: you can’t meet new people in Vancouver. Vancouverites are unfriendly. There are 10 women to every man. There are 5 men to every woman. Etc. Etc.
Yes, you’ve heard these supposed ‘Vancouver dating facts’. But are they ‘facts’ or ‘myths’? The answers may surprise you:
- Myth #1: Vancouver is not a good city for dating – actually, Vancouver has one of the most active and progressive dating cultures of any city in North America. True, much of that is online dating, but there are many other (better) options out there for singles.
- Myth #2: Vancouver single men do not exist – they do exist and, in fact, many single men in Vancouver complain that there aren’t enough single women!
- Myth #3: Vancouver single women are unapproachable – not true. Most single women in Vancouver complain they are rarely, if ever, approached.
- Myth #4: The ratio of single women to single men is WAY out of balance in Vancouver! Also, not true. Although there may be more women or men at a particular event (ie. more women at a wine tasting; more men at a sporting event; etc.), overall statistics show a relatively equal number of single men and women in Vancouver.
- Myth #5: Vancouver men are not interested in long term relationships – not true. Although it can take men longer to feel ‘relationship ready’ than women, eventually most if not all men do get there.
- Myth #6: Vancouver women are mostly interested in a man’s income – not true. In fact, after arranging thousands of successful matches in Vancouver, we have found that a man’s income level is rarely a top match criteria for Vancouver women.
- Myth #7: It’s impossible to meet new people in Vancouver – not true. Although Vancouver has the reputation as a hard city to meet new people, you rarely hear from someone who actually tried to approach someone new and was treated poorly.
The New Year has arrived, and you’re ready to meet someone new in Vancouver. But how?
Here are 7 proven dating tips from the Dating Experts at Executive Search Dating:
- Be proactive: good things in life don’t necessarily come to those that wait. Putting yourself out there and meeting some new people is an essential element of finding someone special.
- Be positive: everyone wants to be with someone positive and fun. Practice your smile, and avoid negative topics once you have met someone new and interesting.
- Be the person you want to meet: in the world of matchmaking, likes often attract likes. Seek out activities and interests where you will find like minded people and your chances of meeting someone special will increase.
- Be bold: lose your fear of rejection and try approaching someone new when you are out with friends. You will be surprised by how positive the reaction will be to a friendly smile and ‘hello’ to a stranger.
- Mix it up: doing the same ‘ole things and expecting different results is a recipe for frustration; try going out in a new neighbourhood or a new restaurant/lounge; or go shopping in a new part of town.
- Forget the past and don’t stress about the future: when it comes to meeting someone new, think of every occasion as a fresh opportunity to connect with someone interesting. And when you do strike up a connection, keep it positive and fun… tell a funny holiday story!
- Hire a professional: you wouldn’t buy a house without some professional help, so why not try a professional dating service to help you in your search for a compatible relationship partner. Professional Matchmaking firms such as Executive Search Dating are bustling with high quality singles who are eager to meet some new people this year. Call us today at 604-462-8743 to find out more!