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5 Victoria Dating Myths & Why You Should Ignore Them

If you’re single & ready for a relationship in Victoria, its time we separate the dating fact from dating fiction.

In spite of what you’ve heard about the Victoria dating scene, here’s the truth: Victoria is a great city to meet your special someone.

So what’s the secret? Start by ignoring these 5 Victoria dating myths – and transform your love life in the process!

  1. Online dating apps are the only option for relationship-minded Victoria singles:  online dating apps are fine if you’re looking for something casual, or if you’re open to meeting all sorts of people in a short period of time. If that’s not you, then try some other methods: attend some single meetup groups, or visit some new places with a few friendly friends. Better yet, hire a professional matchmaker (like Executive Search Dating Victoria!) – contact us today toll-free at 1-833-551-0221 or at info@executivesearchdating.com and we’ll get you started meeting other fantastic Victoria singles just like you. You’ve nothing to lose but your single life!
  2. I’ve been out of the dating scene for too long:  nonsense. In fact, if you’re relatively new to dating many singles would consider that a plus (compared with someone who’s achieved dating burnout). Stop worrying about what ‘they’ will say, and focus on that person right in front of you instead.
  3. I’m too old to date:  says who? Have you heard the one about how dating is only for 20 somethings? Well, its wrong. Believe it or not, the fastest growing demographics for active singles are the 40 & 50 somethings & beyond! It doesn’t matter how old or young you are, but do focus on meeting someone in your own age bracket – that’ll typically get you the best results, especially if you’re looking for something long term.
  4. There’s no good single men/women left in Victoria:  the number of single men and women in Victoria is approximately the same as its ever been. You don’t need thousands of singles – just that one special someone will do. Call our Matchmakers and tell them what you’re looking for and we’ll prove it to you.
  5. The dating odds are not in my favor:  here’s the funny thing about dating odds – single women often think they greatly outnumber the single men & single men feel they outnumber the single women. Your best bet? Forget about the odds – put yourself out there & your odds of meeting someone will improve. Dramatically.

Who are we?:

Executive Search Dating Victoria’s unique service offers Victoria singles:
• a free consultation with a professional matchmaker.
• personally screened and selected matches
• proactive recruiting of compatible singles
• a Relationship Guarantee

Executive Search Dating is BC’s #1 personalized matchmaking service for singles & professionals. Founded in Vancouver by Paddi Rice in 2004, Executive Search Dating has been voted “#1 Matchmaking Service” for seven consecutive years by the Georgia Straight newspaper, BC’s largest people’s choice awards.

For more information or to schedule your free consultation, please call us toll-free: 1-833-551-0221, or by email: info@executivesearchdating.com

“Executive Search Dating Victoria” Officially Launches

Victoria, January 1st, 2018

“Executive Search Dating Victoria” Officially Launches

“Dating Headhunter®” Helps Professional Singles In Victoria Find Lasting Relationships

What’s the biggest complaint of professional singles in Victoria? According to Paddi Rice – President & Founder of Executive Search Dating – its finding like-minded relationship partners with their busy schedule. Now, Executive Search Dating is promising to ease the stress of searching for that special someone by expanding their signature matchmaking service in Victoria, BC.

“In talking with professional singles in Victoria, one thing was clear – it’s hard to meet other single professionals in the city. We totally get that – we’ve been serving professional singles throughout BC for 14 years. Now, we’ve decided to expand our successful matchmaking service in Victoria.”

Online dating apps are not a good solution for busy singles – who don’t want to waste time on endless bad dates. What they need is a “Dating Headhunter®” for their love life – someone who will screen and qualify compatible matches for them.

Executive Search Dating Victoria’s unique service offers Victoria singles:
• a free consultation with a professional matchmaker.
• personally screened and selected matches
• proactive recruiting of compatible singles
• a Relationship Guarantee

Executive Search Dating is BC’s #1 personalized matchmaking service for singles & professionals. Founded in Vancouver by Paddi Rice in 2004, Executive Search Dating has been voted “#1 Matchmaking Service” for seven consecutive years in the Georgia Straight newspaper, BC’s largest people’s choice awards.

For more information or to schedule your free consultation, please call toll-free: 1-833-551-0221; or by email: info@executivesearchdating.com

7 Dating Mistakes You’re Probably Making That Are Sabotaging Your Relationships

Are you ready to find your relationship, but not meeting the right type of person?

Maybe the problem isn’t your date – its the mistakes you made before your date even began. But its not too late.

Fix these 7 common dating mistakes, and get your love life back on track today:

  1. Avoid the chemistry trap:  yes, everyone wants chemistry – but its not the most important part of true ‘relationship match’.  Sometimes the person you have intense chemistry with is not the right person for you. Look deeper.
  2. Commit:  in today’s dating app world, your next match is just a swipe away (or more likely, 1,000 swipes). The reality is your best bet is sitting right in front of you. Put your phone down and focus.
  3. Looking for someone to ‘complete’ you:  expecting your partner to provide burning romance for ever more is an unrealistic expectation. The only one who can complete you, is you. Find someone who feels the same way about themselves, and now you’re getting somewhere (good).
  4. The past is gone:  as time moves on from your past relationships, its easy to look back on them with rose-colored glasses – making your current connection seem less than perfect. Stop it. If your last relationship was so perfect, you’d still be together.
  5. The waiting game:  waiting for that one person you’ve been obsessing over to come your way can be an exercise in frustration. Your best bet? Move on – if they’re truly interested, nothing will get their attention more quickly.
  6. Words matter. Actions matter more:  its easy to fall for someone initially when your love is new & time seems to fly by. But if you’re finding, over time, that all the flowery words aren’t leading you anywhere (like that weekend getaway that never happens) – consider it a red flag.
  7. Mix it up:  Albert Einstein said it best – ‘the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result.’ If you’ve been dating the same type of person without success, take a walk outside your comfort zone & take a chance on someone unexpected. Your love life will thank you.

3 Ways To Get The Best Out Of Your First Date

You may hate first dates – or you may enjoy them.

But here’s one thing for sure: how your first date goes will DRAMATICALLY impact your chances of finding someone special.

This may sound stressful, but its not – it’s simple, and it begins with these 3 dating steps:

  1. Focus on the things you can control:  chemistry is a mysterious force – sometimes its there & sometimes its not. Worrying about it won’t help; in fact, it might make it worse. Focus instead on being the best version of yourself; let Mother Nature do the rest.
  2. Mindset change:  instead of thinking of your date as a potentially life-altering moment in your life, just look at it like a fun chance to meet someone new. Doing this will make you FEEL less nervous, and LOOK more confident – both of which will INCREASE your chances of making a good first impression.
  3. Be the virtuous cycle:  make every effort to enjoy your date – in particular, make sure your date enjoys themselves. This will make you feel good & increase the chances of a 2nd date (which should ALWAYS ask for). This will make you feel better & more confident on your next date, which will increase your success chances even more. Next step: repeat.

5 Things You Can Do Today To Increase Your Relationship Chances

Sometimes, finding your special someone feels like pure chance: a one-in-a-million lucky shot.

But what if I told you that the key to finding your relationship is almost entirely in YOUR hands?

Well its true. Here’s 5 things you can do today to increase your relationship chances:

  1. Your sofa is your enemy:  we all like the odd night at home watching Neflix – but if you’re single and looking to meet someone, its highly unlikely you’ll meet them there. Get up, get out, get on with your life.
  2. Beware the self-fulfilling prophecy:  if you’re feeling negative about your love life – and even start complaining about it on your dates, its about to get a lot worse. Act as though your love life is about to get a whole lot better, smile and be positive, and just watch the trans-formative effect it’ll have on the people you meet.
  3. Take care of yourself – really:  the single most important factor in your future success (in your love life, or anything else) is how you feel when you get up in the morning. If you feel good, life will work out great for you. And the reverse if you wake up feeling lousy most days. Get in shape, clean up your diet, learn some simple ways to feel better & healthier. Your future love life will thank you for it.
  4. Less you, more them:  I get it, when you’re love life is stuck in reverse its hard not to make it all about you. But here’s the thing: everyone wants to talk about themselves – give your dates that opportunity and you’ll soon find your love life going in the right direction again.
  5. Find something you love, then do it:  going to bars or online dating may not be your thing, and its not the best way to meet your perfect person anyway. Here’s a better approach – find something you enjoy (sailing, hiking, cooking, dancing, etc.), then find a group or class or event where you’ll meet other folks who feel the same way. When you start with something in common, you’ll find the rest a lot easier.

4 Things You Do On Dates That Make You Look Like You’re Trying Too Hard

Have you been dating for a while but not truly connecting with anyone? Then its time for a different approach.

Maybe you’re trying – but here’s where dating is different from other aspects of your life: it’s possible to try too hard.

How you ask? Here’s 4 “over the top” dating mistakes – and what to do instead:

  1. Checklist dating:  its normal to want to be prepared for your date, but when your date feels like they’re being interviewed it’ll be over before you know it. Put away your checklist and focus on having fun – particularly on a first or second date. There’ll be a time for a more in-depth discussion about your future together, but a first date is not that time.
  2. Stress test:  sometimes you want so much for the date to go well that it looks like you’re going to pass out. Dating is like a reverse test – if it looks like you’ve ‘over-prepared’, it won’t go well. Relax and focus on enjoying yourself – if you do, its highly likely your date will too.
  3. (over) Dressed for success:  you want to look your best on your date – and showing up looking disheveled is not okay – but you can also overdo it. Showing up in a fancy dress or a designer suit might just make your date feel under-dressed. Aim for a clean, smart-casual look. Save the designer duds for a few dates down the line.
  4. The butler did it:  yes, you want to pick a nice meeting place – but aim for someplace a bit less formal and more fun & casual. Showing up at an overly fancy, expensive restaurant will put your date on edge – and make them wonder if they’re dressed appropriately (see point #3 above). In general, you want the true focus to be on you and your date – not your clothes, the restaurant or anything else. Free your mind and the rest will follow.

6 Date-Ending Mistakes You Should Never Make

Some dating mistakes are worse than others. But some are downright “chemistry killers”.

You’re on a date and its going well, or at least you think it is. Then, all of a sudden, things change and your date is asking for the bill and heading for the exits.

How did this happen? Well, it’s possible you committed one of these 6 date-killing mistakes. Learn them – and how to avoid them – and watch your dating blues vanish into thin air:

  1. A yawning problem:  I get it, you’re tired after a long day. But yawning on your date doesn’t send that message at all. Instead, it sends the message that you find your date boring (even if you don’t). Even if you do, don’t yawn.
  2. Distracted dating:  checking out someone else in the restaurant – or chatting up your server – has one possible upside: you’ll soon have plenty of time on your own to pursue them directly. Good luck with that.
  3. Smoking hot (Not):  just because you smoke it doesn’t make you a bad person – and if you’re on a date with a smoker, go for it. But if you’re not – or even if you’re not sure – put the pack away. And while you’re at it – consider quitting. It’ll increase your dating odds by 90%.
  4. Too much:  on a first or second date, your best bet is to control yourself – stick with a drink or two, and maybe a few appetizers. Finishing the bottle (or the hearty prime rib dinner) can send a subtle message that your drink/meal is more important than your date.
  5. The sweetest sound:  everyone wants to feel appreciated, and saying  someone’s name is the best and easiest way to do that. However, forgetting someone’s name – or constantly mispronouncing it – will have them checking out of your date before you know it.
  6. Mistaking a chair for a couch:  avoid complicated issues when you’ve just met someone – particularly any talk about your ex or the sorry state of your love life. Pity and angst are not attractive qualities – treat the person across from you as relationship-potential; not a potential shrink.

Too Many People Make The Same Mistake At The End Of A Date — And Its Killing Their Relationship Chances

Sometimes, it feels as though your dating life is going well – you’re going on dates and having fun.

Then, one day, you wake up alone and ask yourself “Why are all my dates leading nowhere?”

Well maybe (just maybe) your dates ARE going well, but you’re screwing up the most important part – at the end of your date.

Here’s the mistake – AND how to fix it (and your love life in the process!):

  • The Mistake:  not making arrangements to see your date again (or saying you’ll contact them to arrange another date but never doing it).
  • The Fix:
    • at the end of every first date, ask for a second date.  Don’t think about it / worry about it / stress about it / or anything else – just do it.
    • change your dating default setting FROM: “I’ll only see them again if the date is fantastic” TO: “I’ll see them again, unless the date is a complete disaster.”
    • even if the first date goes poorly, ask for a second date anyway. Why?
      • because not everyone is the best version of themselves on a first date;
      • because even if there’s no ‘spark’ on the first date, you may develop a spark the next time, or a friendship – which is great too;
      • by treating all of your dates with respect (not just the ones you’re REALLY into), they’re much more likely to introduce you to their friend – who just might be your perfect match!
  • Success in dating – and in life – isn’t rocket science. Its following up & following through.

7 Signs You Are RELATIONSHIP READY

Meeting the ‘right person’ is an important element in establishing a successful relationship. Equally important, however, is your own ‘readiness’ to meet that someone special.

Here are 7 classic signs of relationship readiness:

  1. Dating burnout:  does dating begin to feel like ‘groundhog day’, repeating the same old stories about yourself over and over to someone new that you have just met?
  2. Quest for meaningfulness:  do you feel an increasing desire to share meaningful moments with someone special?
  3. Future planning:  do you start thinking about sharing the future (home, family, summer holiday plans, etc.) with someone special?
  4. Tired of the bar scene and online dating:  do you start to think more about quality vs. quantity; ie. dating less but dating more compatible matches?
  5. More than just looks:  do you desire a romantic partner that not only physically attracts you, but who also has other qualities that draw you together (shared family values, intellectual curiosity, education, etc.)?
  6. In your thoughts:  do you find yourself thinking about someone frequently, and consciously making plans which involve them?
  7. Mutual admiration:  do you admire someone and truly value their opinions on important matters in your life?

If you’ve answered yes to some or all of these questions, you are relationship ready!

4 Steps To Reinventing Yourself After A Failed Relationship

In  the relationship of our dreams, there’s only happy ever afters. In the real world, sadly, that’s not always the case.

But does a failed relationship hurt your future chances of finding someone special? No, it doesn’t. In fact, if you take the right steps, it can INCREASE your chances of finding the right match for you next time around. Here’s how:

  1. Love (and life) is a circle:  don’t look at your love life as a straight line from sadness (loneliness) to happiness (marriage bliss).  Instead, look at every new relationship as a part of an endless circle, complete with ups and downs along the way. The end of a relationship doesn’t mean the end of the line, just an opportunity to start a new circle. Let yourself be vulnerable, but commit to picking yourself up – ultimately you’re the only one who truly can.
  2. If you’re not failing, you’re not trying:  its easy to see yourself as a failure when bad things happen, particularly a failed relationship. But the truth is, not all relationships are built to last. And just because a relationship doesn’t  last forever doesn’t mean that it has no value. Cherish the good times, even if they’re in the past.
  3. Visualize relationship success:  all good things in life and love come from a vision. Imagine what happiness means (and doesn’t mean) to you. As the saying goes: if you don’t know where you’re going, how will you know when you get there?
  4. Make an action plan:  once you’ve thought about what you’re looking for, take some concrete actions towards meeting that person. That doesn’t mean you need to try every dating method out there; your best best is to choose the methods that suit you best and that maximize your chances of success. You want a strategy – and strategy is choice.